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10 reasons why relationships fail.

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I was reading an article few hours ago while waiting for Buttons to get his haircut.
To be honest, it is pretty inspirational and educational to some extent.
A friend of mine came to me asking for advices in matters of the heart, and I suddenly realized that it’s really no mean feat trying to maintain a healthy and happy relationship.
So here is a checklist for everyone in love! :)

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Well, we all started off as individuals.
And as much as you love your friends, do keep in mind that your partner has his own social life too.
Of course, it would be perfect if you can get to know his friends too
And even better if you guys can clique!
In my opinion, never challenge a guy to choose between you and his bunch of guys.
Friends are really important people indeed.
Think. Who do you run to when you’re having a tiff with your boyfriend? -Your girlfriends!

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Worrying too much about the future just cause unnecessary tension and pressure on the couple.
“Do you think you will still love me after 5 years?”
“When we get married in future, are we going to split the household workload?”
Why worry about tomorrow’s problems when you can simply just enjoy today?
Many arguments are caused by these unimportant debates and mindless questions,
and I have to admit, often coming from the females.
Honestly, if I were to imagine being asked such questions everyday, I’ll be quite irritated as well.
But that said, I’ll still keep asking because I sometimes seek comfort from the answers I receive.

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I know this may sound very cliche.
But when you fall in love with someone, you fall in love with both this good and bad points.
And expecting someone to change after you two get together, or get married, is almost near impossible.
Well that’s on the more serious note, of course.
Little things like fashion sense & small bad habits may have the chance of being influenced by you,
but at the end of the day, you just have to learn to accept that nobody is ever perfect.

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Like what they always say, “it takes two hands to clap”.
If you’re guilty of always blaming your partner for anything that went wrong, I guess it’s time you reflect upon yourself.
If he is late, why not ask him what happened on the way to meet you instead of jumping to conclusions?
If he is always grumpy when he is with you, perhaps you can ask him why has made his day gone wrong?
When you did something that had caused some unhappiness between the two of you, I’m sure you’d appreciate it too,
if he asks if there are any problems you are facing instead of pushing the blame all to you right away.

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I guess at my age, this might be one of the biggest problems the ladies will be facing.
Everybody has different ideals about marriage and settling down.
It is inevitable if you would scare your boyfriends away if you keep trying to rush into things.
And on a less serious note, there is always a right time to pop the
“I love you”s & physical intimacy when you’re in a new relationship.
Take things slow and let things happen naturally.

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I will have to say that I’m very guilty of this sin. Green-eyed monsters, please join the line.
It may be due to your previous bad experiences or encounters with heartbreakers, but jealousy kills slowly.
Where there is jealousy, there will be no trust.
Interaction and conversations with the opposite sex is very normal.
And if you get jealous when there is no real reason to, it will seriously cause great harm to the relationship.
That being said, I think it’s important that you always get that sense of security from your partner as well.
Do talk about it & let him know if you need assurance and more security in your relationship.

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If you are guilty of this, then your current lover must be in agony.
If you’re still hung up over your previous relationship, you probably need more time to nurse your little broken soul.
But if you’re just one of those irritating brats who like to compare your current partner with your ex
then it’s really time to do something about it.
I can understand completely when you say that it’s inevitable to compare sometimes.
We all compare – it’s only natural.
But like what I’ve mentioned earlier, no one is perfect.
Next time you catch yourself comparing again, why not compare something that your current boyfriend has that your ex doesn’t?
Come to terms with the reality, and tell yourself that if you keep wanting to have the best of both worlds,
you’ll probably end up with nothing.

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It takes a lot of courage to walk away from something you are so familiar with.
And that fear and insecurity about the unknown world out there always gets us stuck in a dilemma.
This was exactly what I was facing when I was still with the-one-who-shall-not-speak-of.
But honestly, if you choose not to walk away now, you will still come face-to-face with the same problem few years down the road.
So if that is not what you want, try to talk about the problem with your loved one and see what can be done to bring that spark back.
And if both of you are too tired to do anything about it, then it’s time to let go.

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There is basically no relationship without trust and communication.
It takes years to build up on trust but only seconds to destroy it.
If you are unhappy about something, do let your partner know.
If you’re unhappy and he is left clueless, it will be a little unfair isn’t it?
I think this is pretty straight forward, and everyone should agree with this.

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Honestly, there can’t be another faster or more cowardly way to end a relationship.
I guess this is the mistake everyone tries to avoid, but probably also one of the more common pitfalls causing broken relationships. But as much as it hurts, look at the bright side – it somehow makes moving on easier isn’t it? If you want to see someone else, be a responsible lover and end your relationship first.

And another bad thing we always do when we’re in a relationship is to mention breaking up all the time.
It might be able to scare your boyfriend for the first few times and will get him back at your feet again, but over time, it will just appear as if you don’t treat him seriously at all. Don’t mention anything about breaking up all the time unless you really mean it. And if “breaking up” doesn’t present itself as an option, then your relationship will last long enough until the cows come home.

That being said, I think we still have a lot to learn about maintaining a good relationship with our loved one.
It’s always easy to fall in love but hard to stay in love.
I think I can be found guilty of all of those faults mentioned above.
But it’s never too late to learn.

The world will be a better place with more love going around, people. :)

Goodnight.

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Written by SIXPEGS

October 20, 2009 at 9:16 pm

Posted in SIXPEGS Top 10s

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  1. sibei hor ah this article pick a pegs.. well said la best frd !

    alvinleong

    October 21, 2009 at 1:16 am

    • that reminds me. i haven’t transferred you the money! :p

      sixpegs

      October 21, 2009 at 1:28 am

  2. i like this post a lot pegs. these are very crucial points in a relationship, and i can’t think of any better points which u haven’t brought up. so well done pegs. this is a very very good post indeed. when my guy comes along in the near future, i will be sure to keep these points in mind. it is very true, from the heart, and yep. i wish u and benjamin happiness. take good care of yourself.

    xiu1201

    October 21, 2009 at 1:25 am

    • :) Well to be fair, I didn’t come up with all these points. The author did a good job there! :p Glad you like the post. Wish you happiness too!

      sixpegs

      October 21, 2009 at 1:29 am

  3. Hi Pegs,

    Been a follower of your blog for quite some time. This post rocks and is meaningful.
    Can I post in my Facebook note, but at the same time I will credit your name to it?

    Ina

    October 21, 2009 at 9:03 am

    • of course you may, ina.
      i’m glad you liked it. :)

      sixpegs

      October 21, 2009 at 2:26 pm

  4. have been a silent reader of your tweets & blogs but i felt that it’s a very heartwarming post which makes me ponder a little to be a better girl for the guy i love. thanks for the post! and maybe you wanna add on to… umm being harsh – as in hurting the one you love with hurtful words when u’re mad angry. too much of those are also not good. :)

    Winda

    October 21, 2009 at 2:24 pm

    • that’s nice of you winda.
      i’m sure your guy will appreciate it. :)
      and words really hurt a lot. that’s a good point mentioned.
      thanks!
      that’s why i think it’s not necessarily a bad thing to be the one always keeping quiet at an argument.

      sixpegs

      October 21, 2009 at 2:30 pm

  5. WELL SAID…. Totally AGREE!!!!!!!!

    well… btw…
    any outer (Blazer/cadigans) to recommend???
    seriously need some, but can’t seems to find anything!!!!!!!
    help me…!!! =)
    thanks babes..>!!!

    T

    October 21, 2009 at 2:50 pm

    • heyyy T, thanks!
      you can try those blogshops I featured? you can surely find a blazer suitable for you!
      there are so many going around now!

      sixpegs

      October 21, 2009 at 3:12 pm

  6. so nice. can i copy and paste to my blog?

    rachel

    October 21, 2009 at 3:53 pm

    • of course. do link it back to me and to the original author of the article too! :)
      glad you liked it too.

      sixpegs

      October 21, 2009 at 3:55 pm

  7. Nice post Pegs!!

    I will keep this in mind so as to maintain a gd r/s with my bf.. ^^

    Hope U & Buttons be as lovely always!! ^^ *hugs

    G!ne

    October 21, 2009 at 3:58 pm

    • thank you g!ne. :)
      wish you happiness in your relationship too!

      sixpegs

      October 21, 2009 at 4:02 pm

  8. Nice post Pegs!!

    I will keep this in mind so as to maintain a gd r/s with my bf.. ^^

    Hope U and Buttons stay as loving always!! *hugs ♥

    G!ne

    October 21, 2009 at 4:03 pm

  9. Love this post. It is so true.

    I am learning too. =)

    May you and Buttons stay as blissful.

    Leenie

    October 21, 2009 at 8:42 pm

    • yup. hope you’ll find happiness also! :)

      sixpegs

      October 21, 2009 at 11:11 pm

  10. Hi Peggy, were u in plaza sg today? i saw u at Agnes B shop.. :) u look as pretty as ur pics posted in ur blog

    vernice

    October 21, 2009 at 11:27 pm

    • hahaha yeah it was me. i bought a new purse today! hehehehe! :p
      really damn broke now!

      sixpegs

      October 21, 2009 at 11:32 pm

  11. hmm, good points! =)
    how abt controlling your partners? i know of ppl who are ve controlling in rs! =/

    tinyy

    October 21, 2009 at 11:46 pm

    • hmm. would that be classified under personal space?
      actually come to think of it, there is controlling in many different aspects also.
      good point. :)

      sixpegs

      October 22, 2009 at 1:13 am

  12. It takes a lot of courage to walk away from something you are so familiar with.

    i guess this is really true. It is so hard to let go of someone u are so used to, who seems to know many details of ur life, and maybe for that time I might worry who would ever love me so much again?

    and what a pity it would be, and to start all over again. great and simple article.

    debraaa

    October 22, 2009 at 1:01 am

    • it really is no mean feat.
      and after walking away, you have to tell yourself “NO REGRETS” no matter what.
      once you feel any sense of regret, you will fall into the horrible cycle of self pity and other bullshit again.
      but i really believe something has to be done if there is no feelings anymore.
      either talk about it and deal with it, or stop wasting more time.
      we women don’t have much time to spare, isn’t it? :)
      but at the end of the day, we just gotta learn how to love ourselves more instead of waiting for another person to love us.
      that’s why i bought myself a purse today. MUAHAHAHAHA!

      sixpegs

      October 22, 2009 at 1:06 am

  13. Thank youu….tat is v v useful tips…i tink some of us…we juz neglect that our partner nid to be treat as fren too…=)
    i nid to bear in mind too…well done…~!!

    ffayth

    October 22, 2009 at 1:59 am

    • thanks fayth. :) yeah partners need to be treated as friends sometimes too.

      sixpegs

      October 22, 2009 at 2:12 am

  14. aww.I have to admit that ive most of these probs too man
    YEA.& ur right,its always not too late to learn the right way to love

    <3
    tc peg

    dotties

    October 22, 2009 at 3:02 am

    • :D

      sixpegs

      October 22, 2009 at 3:04 am

  15. wonderfully-written peggy! :)

    i especially love the line “if you keep wanting to have the best of both worlds,
    you’ll probably end up with nothing.”

    AND AND! “we all started off as individuals.”

    how true! :)

    jocelyn

    October 22, 2009 at 2:46 pm

    • thankew jocelyn! :D

      sixpegs

      October 22, 2009 at 2:54 pm

    • and hey your clay miniatures are REALLY adorable!

      sixpegs

      October 22, 2009 at 2:56 pm

  16. ugh. so true. so true. sob. never too late to learn. from today:) thank you

    maybellekym

    October 24, 2009 at 9:07 am

  17. *nods head* so true… every reason plays a part … i like it! thanks babe, i’ve learn something & try to get those pts in head…. N i think this video is rather interesting & true about how men & women think too… http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GuMZ73mT5zM
    His a senior pastor as well as a speaker now, watch his other videos too… ;)

    Juliette

    October 25, 2009 at 10:46 pm

  18. hey, these are really gd pts and i found myself guilty after reading through this article. great post. (:

    Peier

    October 27, 2009 at 4:27 pm

    • i’m glad you liked it peier! :) no worries, i’m sure tons of people feel guilty after reading it. :) important thing is that you realised you’re guilty! hee.

      sixpegs

      October 28, 2009 at 1:05 am

  19. i think u should create a section on the right hand side for easy access to great articles like this ;)

    su

    October 28, 2009 at 11:23 am

    • really?
      okay, i’ll consider your suggestion. thanks!
      will blog more about these little “guidelines” to happy living too since everyone likes them
      thanks su.

      sixpegs

      October 28, 2009 at 8:54 pm

  20. I agree that jealousy commonly breaks the relationship. However, sometimes jealousy is what brings a relationship into a stronger one. It’s not really jealousy that breaks apart a relationship, sometimes there are reasons behind a jealousy. And even if there is jealousy as long as there is openness and understanding, a relationship can last.

    Ret

    September 27, 2010 at 11:24 am


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